Older adults are also applying by the millions for online matchmaking sites or participating in speed-dating sessions.According to the Pew Research Center, one in every 10 American adults has used an online dating site or a mobile dating app.“…the use of online dating sites has become steadily more prevalent in recent years.Conversation flows naturally for a couple hours, with each beginning to learn about the background and interests of the other.After dessert, the gentleman pays for the meal and then drives the lady home.In the context of dating, it removes much of the need for charm; it’s more like dropping a line in the water and hoping for a nibble.”The article further states: “Online dating services, which have gained mainstream acceptance, reinforce the hyper-casual approach by greatly expanding the number of potential dates.Faced with a never-ending stream of singles to choose from, many feel a sense of ‘FOMO’ (fear of missing out), so they opt for a speed-dating approach—cycle through lots of suitors quickly.“That also means that suitors need to keep dates cheap and casual. You’re lucky to get a drink.“‘It’s like online job applications, you can target many people simultaneously—it’s like darts on a dart board, eventually one will stick,” said [a 26-year-old] branding coordinator in Manhattan, describing the attitudes of many singles in their 20s. Over the decades in the Western world, traditional dating was gradually overtaken by the high school “going steady/boyfriend-girlfriend” approach.
Almost a third of women (31%) say they would get married versus one in four (25%) men.”Think.
This means that only approximately one-fourth to one-third of singles are dating to find a spouse.
And this number is even less among those in their 20s and 30s.
Ken Solin, who wrote The Boomer Guide to Finding True Love Online, detailed his experience in a self-authored column titled “Dating Over 50: Going Slow Instead of with the Flow”: “Online dating profiles don’t really explain a person, and chemistry requires a face-to-face, so online dating has its limitations.
Then there’s the issue of dating etiquette, which doesn’t appear to exist at all, and since there aren’t any rules, dating behavior ranges from polite to rude…But trying to go slow in a dating world that operates at supersonic speed is difficult, because it’s really easy to get caught up in the partnering race.
In 2008 just 3% of all Americans said that they had used an online dating site; by 2009 that figure had risen to 6% of all Americans, and today 9% of the adult population has used an online dating site.”Being able to connect with so many possible matches at the touch of a button should have simplified the already difficult process and made it even easier to find a “soul mate.” Yet it has instead complicated it, resulting in less solid relationships than ever before.“Traditional courtship—picking up the telephone and asking someone on a date—required courage, strategic planning and a considerable investment of ego (by telephone, rejection stings),” The New York Times reported in the article “The End of Courtship?